1.) Teach children the power of self-esteem. Nobody can take power away from your child. Your child can handle anything. Provide your child with a few positive promises that he/she can repeat to him/herself to help deal with situations. “I can handle anything.” “I’m beautiful, powerful and in charge of my life.” We also talk about qualities that make up a bully and the value that quality has in our participants life.
2.) We put emphasis on the importance of surround ourselves with positive, powerful, peers. Create friends with these kids and stick with them. These kids are the ones who will help you stand up to the bully and help you avoid him/her until the situation is resolved. Sometimes you’ll have to do this by joining a new group or organization so enlist your parents help in finding the right program for you.
3.) First thing kids have to do is tell the bully to stop. They must stand up for themselves. “You know what, Carrie, don’t do that. It’s not cool.”
4.) Shrug off the comment as if it didn’t mean anything. Walk away calmly as if you have all the confidence in the world and just had a great conversation with someone you really like. Avoid the bully; create a new route to your locker or next class. If you have time, go somewhere that you feel safe to regroup your thoughts.
5.) Kids have to tell an adult they trust. They must be very specific about how this person made you feel. Do you feel threatened, scared, angry? These are important feelings to bring up adults. Everyone has to be in the know about what’s happening at school. It’s the only way that bully’s parents/guardians/teachers are going to know to watch that kids behavior and address changes that have to happen.